In our most recent article we wrote about how pressure can cripple us. Now let’s dive into how to avoid being pressured. The most extreme method for doing this is by stepping away from the people and world you know and focus on survival without the need of going to work and being in contact with others. In this situation you would only have the pressure to survive, no pressure from the outside. Moving away from the world you know is only a last option, and it’s not advised for most. It remains a possibility nevertheless.
Pressure comes from people who want you to have a great life, this can only be achieved by pushing your limits. However the things they want you to achieve are not always your goals. Don’t focus on their goals but make it clear to them that you look for your own path. Strive for your goals and show them that what you choose is worth it for you and that you are able to achieve them. If it is your family attempting to motivate you it is a difficult thing to make them trust your way. Especially when you don’t have a track record yet of succes it is nearly impossible to do it. Continue to push towards the goals you want to achieve AND through the method you want to use for it. For example your parents want you to obtain high grades. Yet the most important is that you succeed not what the exact grade is. While not getting the highest grade you can apply time on different areas of life, like already getting work experience.
The pressure of survival in the big city will make you lose sight of your dream… Hang in there. – James De La Vega
At some point your family and friends will start to appreciate your hard work on your own goals and will trust you to choose your own path. The pressure will maintain, but they will come from a different person or environment. Work is the environment with the most pressure. Your employer is paying you to do the work they don’t have the time for. You will have a constant payment coming in on your account if they are satisfied with your work. Removing or reducing the pressure can be done in multiple ways. Increase the number of hours you work to catch up, be prepared to meet clients when your work day is about to finish, propose to directly help them on a certain task or continue to improve your work efficiency.
The more benefits, especially the unexpected ones, you bring to your boss the happier they will be. The smallest things will have the most result. For example if you notice that your boss is about to make a mistake be willing to kindly assist them to avoid them from making it. It will help them trust your opinion and acknowledge that you can spend your workday efficiently and be the representative of your company. Earning yourself trust from everyone around you will allow you to go through life with the least amount of stress. A last example of this is your teacher. If they see, or feel, that you are studying hard they wont be bothered if the answer you give isn’t completely correct. They trust that you did your best learning and understanding it. Not having found the correct answer doesn’t mean that you didn’t work hard on it.