Plenty of people wouldn’t want to stand alone at any moment at any place. Yet sometimes it’s better to take a step back from the people you know. Some friends you have met long ago and they will remain your best support system and stay friends forever. Others may have been your friends for long but cause some negative influence. This may be doing illegal activities, always talking negatively or being harsh on other people who aren’t in your friend group. It’s great to continue friendships because of your shared moments, but these shared feelings and moments can’t hold you back forever.
The same thing goes for family or partners. Family members will always remain family and you shouldn’t distance yourself from them for a minor issue. Family often known you since you are born or some time after. However if they influence your life badly don’t feel forced to unconditionally remain in contact with them. Are they rarely sober and have a bad effect on you? Look for options to stand on your own feet even if it means taking distance and taking on responsibilities. Your partner is the person that you should feel safe with and have things in common with. They may have some great qualities, but it’s also possible that they physically or mentally hurt you. Don’t feel obliged to stick with them.
It’s better to be healthy alone than sick with someone else. – Phil McGraw
Due to the social media it seems that everyone has the perfect life and relationship. However people only put the good things on social media. When something goes wrong or not as planned it wont be shared. Don’t compare your life to the life of someone else, rather focus on improving your happiness and comparing it to your own life from before. Becoming happy is the same as becoming healthy, it can be done with or without someone else. For the greatest result and keeping it sustainable it might be better to get healthy or happy on your own. This means that if the other person decides to quit your progress will not change.
Becoming happy because of the people around you has it’s advantages. It’s easier and more fun to be together. However you are running the risk that you are only becoming happy because of them. When you are seperating from them you’ll have to start over again. Don’t fill in an empty place in your life solely by adding someone new in your life who has to make you happy. Rather find ways of enjoyment life going on a bike ride or going for a walk alone. Then next to that you can still meet new people, but you are not counting on them making you happy.
I agree! You’re the only person who’ll never leave your side, might as well get along!
Very true, you will always have yourself standing in your corner. Be happy with yourself and you will have amazing relationships with the people around you.