Friends are there in good and bad times. When one of your friends encounters misfortune where they lose one of their close family members they are in need of some support from their friends.
There are different ways that you can show your support to your friends. It all depends on what they think will help them the best. Think about the activities that you usually do together and what they like. It may be going for a drink or a walk in nature. Everyone acts different at such a hard loss. Some want to talk about it, others would prefer to get back to the usual to think about something different.
There is no grief like the grief that does not speak. – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Be very gentle and thoughtfull about how your friend feels in this difficult time. If they rather not speak about it might be too painfull for them at this point. Or they may try to get over it without talking too much about it, because this is how it works for them. Others don’t mind talking about it, but they wont bring it up themselves. This may be simply because they don’t want to bring others down or feel as being a burden to their friends. From the moments that they do talk about it you can try to figure out whether or not it helps them or hurts them talking about it.
If you don’t know what you can do to help them, don’t worry about it. The best thing you can do is to reach out for them. It doesn’t matter what you tell them, just show that you care and that you make time for them. This is the opposite of what most people do. They avoid contact trying to give them space, while getting in contact with them allows them to get away out of the slumber they end up with. Next up try to pay carefull attention what they want and let them speak as much as they want. If they want to join into a group meeting they may want to enjoy their time not speaking a lot. Respect their decision and support them how you can.
There is no right or wrong in how you react to them. Try to find the things that will help them and provide it to them.